So ladies (and gents). It’s been a busy week recording another podcast and keeping up with posts. Despite being busy, I did manage to fit in some “me” time (a whole two hours!) and watched a film that is a classic favourite of mine.
“He’s just not that into you”
Watching the film really made me giggle but I’m sure resonates with lots of girls (and guys) in that, sometimes, that is indeed quite the truth. (As much as we all hate to admit it!) . He’s just not that into you.
As well as watching my favourite film, I also scanned a few dating blogs to look for post inspiration, I have to admit, I was a little disappointed!
A lot of posts talked about…
“How women should behave when dating.”
“Are we too keen?”
“Not keen enough?”
“When should we text?”
“Should we leave mystery?”
I was beyond agitated reading reels of posts and I struggled to comprehend how other women could write and encourage other women to change who they are and how they act with the purpose of pleasing another human being.
Personally, I would rather spend the rest of my days with just little old me and my buddies than change myself to make another person happy. (However, pleaseeeee, don’t give yourself a hard time if you’re not in that place right now – it does takes time).
I came to a conclusion that unfortunately, we all have such a fear of rejection, that we guard ourselves with game playing, commitment issues, dating apps and many other things.
But seriously, has anyone asked the question…what is so bad about rejection anyway?
Naturally, we seem to have a tendency to automatically blame ourselves when another person doesn’t “want” us – I used to be that person.
Now, I actively encourage myself to challenge that mind set and I would challenge you to do the same. Someone else’s perception of us doesn’t define the truth and on a lot of occasions it’s actually not our issues at all but mainly the other person who doesn’t “want” us problems.
And just sometimes there is the blinding reality- “they just aren’t that into you”. Don’t take it personally, as my Grandma tells me “plenty more fish in the sea”.
So instead of telling you when to text, when to hold back, how to behave and how not to (bla bla bla) I’m going to share with you the five best reasons that my girlfriends and I have been “rejected” so hopefully you can laugh, learn and move on, it happens to the best of us! (Ps. narrated with Disney as always, Peter Pan felt apt based on boys flying off to never grow up).
1.You’re just too good for me
If this is the excuse someone uses to stop dating you then they’ve hit the nail on the head. You are too good for them.
2.I’m just not ready to settle down yet but let’s just see how things go
Ohhhh, so you know that you don’t want me, but you do want to have sex with me? I’m good thanks. Boy bye.
3.I really haven’t found myself yet, I need to travel you know? Just do me.
Off you fuck then Peter Pan.
4.You’re amazing, I’ve never met anyone like you before, but, you see I have this girl in my life and things haven’t been right for a while, it’s complicated…
You’re right, it is complicated IN YOUR HEAD, not mine. Run ladies, run a mile otherwise you’ll end up being that poor girlfriend. Trust me!
5. Monogamy is such an outdated concept. I want to see you, but want to see other people
Babe, I know its confusing as I’m a queen, but you’re not Henry 8th.
Ladies, these are the funniest reasons that we have been “rejected” but we discussed and laughed about many more.
Remember, men are natural-born one-uppers. If there’s a possibility of upgrading what they already have for something better, 9/10, they will. So, if you are rejected by some one who can’t see your worth, suck it up, you’re worth more than someone who can’t see your value; keep on being you. The right man (that 1/10) will come along, sweep you off your feet and not fly away!
And if he doesn’t, so what? From memory… I don’t think Tinkerbell or Wendy ended up with Peter? Didn’t he end up in Never Never land, with his mates, never growing old, looking through Wendy’s window…. Disney had it right all along….. 😉
Enjoy ladies and keep being fabulous x